Is It So Difficult, Friends?

Life, as we all know, can't always be smooth sailing and perfect. There are days when we are short-tempered, we react overly to small things, we snap at one another, we take the crap until we can't tolerate it any more. The dam of our patience slowly starts overflowing. Then it starts creaking and cracking, until it can not hold it any longer. Finally it bursts with fury, sending raw expression upon raw emotion rushing through the cracked walls, allowing them to flow freely against all the pressures.

When I started writing this post, I really didn't know what to write.  

I just had "n" number of thoughts running across my head and voices echoing in my ears. Voices of some people I got to know in real meaning after having them heard...their stories...their experiences....that changed them for life...that made them what they are today...how the actions of few people around them affected them emotionally that forced their thought processes to change completely.

I'm going through a stage of amazement and all I could wonder about is how easy it can get for people to judge others without knowing their reasons, their life stories. Haven't they ever had a not-so-good time, or a bad time, that might have caused them to behave in a raw manner... just the way they actually feel, without any masks on. Is it so difficult to empathize with them? Are they so different that we can't treat them right? If not, why are they categorized as rude, arrogant, insane, ill-mannered, and so on. . .

As if, we have never committed a mistake, or we have never been impolite to anyone. As if, we are as pure as we expect others to be! 

The lady sitting beside me shared how she was turning into that "exploited lady" more and more with each day passing and then came a stage when she just could not take it anymore. She was being deceived by every second person whom she trusted upon in the run of solving her issues. How she was disrespected, and how she was pushed to the darkness of depression, to a point where she started feeling "pretty darn pathetic".  After a certain span of time, she has started feeling better. But now, people have started seeing her as an arrogant and rude person. Why? Just because now, she is not ready to take anyone's shit. Yeah! Call her psycho, because she would give it back to you. Be ready to handle it, or don't ruin her peace at all.

Similar circumstances and insensitive emotionless "humans"  turned another young girl into a STRONG LADY. . .She is being called lazy and ill-mannered, by the slackers who are always running away from their responsibilities. What they are perfect in is the art of stealing away others' credit for a job well done. How could someone be so mentally sick to sit idle themselves, and harass another individual all day by asking her to finish unjustified amount of work, all alone. 

Why should someone make personal sacrifices for no credit, that too for such people. I can't find a reason. . .genuine enough!

I never understood how all of this hypocrisy, back-bitching, finding happiness in someone's pain, could let a person have a peaceful sleep at night. Why people can't start their day with a positive attitude, not only towards themselves, but towards their fellow companions as well. 

You know, it's only a matter of keeping our thoughts and views CLEAN... dirt-free. 

Let's be compassionate enough to those whose lives have been, or currently are, engulfed by pain, sorrow and loss. Let's take a moment to empathize with them and I think, we all can do that. Let's share smiles and allow them to carry through their difficult times. Let's not be judgmental. Please, I request..!! 

Let's stop stretching things to a point where they break into pieces, to never get repaired again. Let's learn to take things lightly and make it easy for our friends as well to get comfortable with their lives. It should not be that hard for any of us, friends!

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˙·٠• Creating Yourself •٠·˙

"Hey dear life...Where have you been hiding?

My heart has been running to chase you!

My first quest, dear life, is you...Yeah..it's you!

Please apprise me of what's it like to be far from me.

Here I'm standing anxious to have a glance at you!"

(☆★☆ few lines born from yesterday's  boredom. . .)

　　　　　　

I'm supposed to attend my "In-Service Training" this entire week. Well that's not my concern. My concern is to attend every session attentively. Yes, being attentive! Trust me; that really gets difficult sometimes, or most of the times. The concern, that ends on futile trials. That's not because I'm reluctant towards learning; I'm a learner for life, you see! But, going through the same lessons again and again is really boring, and tiring as well. The training so far is seeming no different than the orientation training that we went through in the first month of our service; it's kind of a repetition this time. 

So, what does one should do to kill time in that scenario? Or I should say, what we actually do in that case? I know our answers are all same, wink! We mostly daydream, yawn, sleep with open eyes, draw lines and circles in our notebooks, check time on our cellphones, wait for the break, and pretend to be a keen listener. Right? 

In the midst of this boredom, I came across a quote on one of the social networking websites. It was:

"Life is not about finding yourself. It's about creating yourself."

Creating yourself! 

That definitely is the aim of each one of us. But how, when, and where do we start? 

I remember this beautiful Hindi song that we've grown up hearing. . . 

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"Papa kehte hai bada naam karega...

Beta humara aisa kaam karega...

Magar ye toh, koi naa jaane...

ki meri manzil hai kahaan..."

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Yeah! This song is about creating ourselves. What shape do we take, is decided by the path chosen by us.

So what is "Creating yourself"? I think, it's not totally about owing a big name in the world, a big house, big cars, or a luxurious lifestyle. It's actually about being an individual who is full of happiness and contentment.. No doubt the above mentioned things are desired by all of us as they help us meeting that contentment and happiness in life to some extent. Not being materialistic, that's a fact! 

To achieve it all, we start with studying hard since childhood. One of life's beautiful phase flies by in understanding it's meaning. Half of the youth goes away in giving life a direction; finding a desired job takes away the whole of it. In this journey of achieving something, we lose the sight of our destiny- A LIFE TO BE CHERISHED! Then, erasing the difference of day and night, we push all our limits and burn ourselves in the fire of  hard work. In the long run, a time arrives when we forget the actual purpose behind it; which was. . . to live a happy and content life. . . to enjoy life. I guess, that's why we were born!

We often tend to forget that our internal happiness is not dependent on materialistic things.

I think we all are aware of what is capable of giving us that eternal happiness. . .Yes, that is. . . LOVE of the dear and near ones; spending time with them; making MEMORIES with them. 

And, we don't need to be a millionaire for that! Do we? 

Life and Happiness are bound to time, and time, my friend, is bound to pass. So, make the best use of it. Not only by adding on to your achievements, but also CELEBRATING this beautiful gift of life. 

Remember. . . We won't get another one!

. . .Secret Haters. . .

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They once pretended to be your admirers. 

Now, they keep thinking of you day and night. 
They are not left with enough contentment within themselves, so they want to snatch it away from someone else's life as well. . .your life. 

They are confused losers who can't figure out whether they hate you or themselves. 
They are frustrated failures. They have lost their opportunity...
Oh yes, that's what it is!! 

They are very good in judging people, without knowing them enough, or at all. 
Wow!! That definitely needs skill man!
Moreover, they dare to do it in front of other people with the intention of molding their thoughts for the person.
As if others don't have a mind of their own. 

How foolish is that!!

They themselves are not capable enough to achieve something, so they keep looking out for an excuse that people might buy. 
Are we even interested in knowing their reasons and not-so-interesting excuses? 
Well, I'm not!! 
And, if you are not, they secretly start hating you. 

That's not very difficult to understand, right!

I remember to have read it somewhere, that they hate you because of three major reasons:

1) They want to have a happy life like yours but they can't. 
2) They want to be with you but they can't.
3) They want to be like you but they can't.

Well, my only prayer for such people is that one day, they learn to find happiness for themselves; I mean...THEIR part of happiness.

Talking about being with you Secret Hater, well that's not possible dear, as I've mentioned this in one of my blogs earlier as well, through a beautiful quote by Nima Davani. . . .

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About the third point, Secret Hater, you must understand that we can never be alike, never ever; you can't be me and I can't be you (I would never even want to be!). I seriously doubt, if anyone in the world could be like you!! You are UNIQUE! 

Wild Bill, your sheep needs grooming!
BUT, like we say in Hindi...

"Tumse Naa Ho Payegaa..!!" 

I could never understand why people can't mend their own lives but have this habit of always  peeping and peeking into others' lives. 

Get a life, people..!! 

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~~Life is Good~~

I wish I had something exciting to share but I've got nothing. Just run of the mill life stuff like spending most of my energy on work and coping with the seasonal health issues as best I can. Last couple of weeks haven't been very picturesque, let me tell you...

...few not so exciting things...

:: I know people including me out here in Delhi have been feeling summer-grilled lately. I think we should now stop claiming that we are a country of seasons but long humid summers, irregular humid rains, and short but bone-chilling winters. I think they're just not subtle anymore. As of now, I'm enjoying the cool evenings, even if the soothing weather is slow to catch up. I've been managing to survive the brutal heat of day-time with loads of lassi, chhaach, juices, water, and lot more of water (not cold water as it doesn't suit me). Yeah! You got that right. It should not be cold, no matter how scorching hot the Sun is! I've also started avoiding AC, as my body has started showing up the signs of cervical. I find it bothering me more when in AC. Phew!  Adding onto the problem...are these seating jobs...As I always say...Such jobs are the biggest enemies of health! I'm normally loathe to give up summer, but this year's heat wave literally killed me, and now I'm grasping at any hint of chill in the air even if it would mean to go through a strange kind of depression that I usually face in winters only. 

:: Okay, just like past few weeks, I've been able to spend only a little time home this week, apart from the sick leave.  Most of our time is consumed by the never-ending shopping spree. Seriously, it feels like it would never end! Wow...a never ending shopping spree...just love it every time!! The only thing that bothers us is...our Sun-tanned skin. You see, we get no time to pamper ourselves, which is equally important to be done. I’m always seeking out some free time, be it in office, or at home, free time to do nothing; not even pampering myself...but just nothing! 

:: Moreover, I've been constantly hogging fast food and sweets and all kinds of fatty food....Fried chicken momozzzz (yummmmm...), pizza (drooool....), cheese bread (heaven’s delight.....), kebabs, tikkaazz, chips (countless packets), cookies, wafers, chocolates, cup-cakes, sweets........... Just name it! All thanks to the pre-marriage rituals involving sweets at every step! Our refrigerator is full of sweets these days.  Also, when you have all these yummy things in front of you, you have to respect them!! Won’t you?? I don't even mind doing it, as long as I don't put on weight. But when it comes to healthy food in lunch, my hunger dies within a fraction of seconds. That’s not good!! 

:: It seems like I've started basing my eating habits against the approaching weather. Don’t remember how and when I developed this strange habit of savoring ice-cubes, ice-crumbs, and every other form of ice. I know it’s not good for my health, especially in this changing weather; still I’m drawn to the refrigerator like a moth is drawn to a flame; and that’s the reason behind my daily dose of scolding from mommy (which is always received graciously by me, it’s so full of love!). Despite that, I manage to get my hands on ice occasionally. Love that taste...mmmm...bliss!! 

:: Office, as usual, is beating the hell out of my mental peace. Haahahahaaa... not really ... just kidding...!! These days are few peaceful ones from a teeny-weeny annual lot of happy days. I can say this as I've completed my first year working for this Government organization. Rare are these happy and peaceful days! But next two weeks are going to be fully packed with work. This is the story of the first two weeks of every month. Anyway! To have a peaceful life, we should leave the office stuff at office only. You leave office for the day; you leave all its tensions at its gate only. That’s the key to a happy life on the personal front.  I do the same. At least, I try. Do you?? If not, give it a try tomorrow..........You’ll feel great!!

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~~~Leaving you beautiful people with a quote as beautiful~~~:

~~~It's often life's smallest pleasures and gentlest joys that make the biggest and most lasting difference.~~~  

~ Unknown

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. . .What My Heart Says. . .

I wanted this particular dawn to be a pleasing one...Just wasn't aware that it would be.

At times...it's just one simple step around the corner that marks the beginning of a change!

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Listen to what my heart says...

Change is good..!!

But, I would never, never ever want to get so engaged, so occupied, that I fail to hear the hush; the quiet; the beautiful tranquility of a brand new day.

I am grateful to the expression- ~ SLOW ~!! 

The word, that often reminds me to slow down in the race of life. 
To slow down, both with intention, and purpose; and sometimes, just for the sake of clearly seeing the journey through life.

Hmm...How I ponder on it time and again.

We all feel the same way about it, I think..!! 

But don't know if you also have a hard time practicing it. Do you?? 

How amazing life would have been..

if only we could just slow down, and simply rejoice in the serenity of life..!!  

At least, more often than we may already do. 

May you have a beautiful day..!!

Hearts on the shore... ♡ ♡

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The skies are singing blue, soon they would rain,

amid the music of ocean, to kiss the shore again.

One longing so long, to gently clasp wind's hands,

is screaming and yearning, to drench the golden sands.

As is the rain of love, so is the breeze of life all new,

long ago a moment in time , had tied my being with you.

No words could voice our love, so zealous and deep,

love that floats, in the fragrant fumes of our dreams.

Hand in hand, we will walk along the mighty shores,

with the tender winds fondling, our rain-drenched souls.

Soon our footprints, will embrace the silky beach,

where the sparkling playful waves, will tickle our feet.

Sweet is the wish, to see an ocean shining in your eyes,

that draws my heart to rain over, like a cloud full of light.

Over the boundless ocean, soon that cloud would pour,

but till then, we will sit, and draw hearts on the shore. . . . .

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Is it always sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew??

"It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew."

                                                                         -Henry Rollins

I used to believe it too. 

No offense guys! But...is it so ?? I mean...is it always true??
............Naaahh............not always.....!!

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Life is a beautiful journey which is always willing to bestow us with some of the most beautiful companions out there...Some people without whom our journey will never be completed. We would never be able to have a beautiful life without their company, their unconditional support and love.

Those integral parts of our life are, our family- our life's *~angels~* who are the prime building blocks of our existence, and a handful of friends who once were total strangers, who came along to become our soul family at later point of time. 

It would have been impossible to keep walking on this long road of life without them all. What is life without family and friends? .....NOTHING!!.....

When I talk about "Unconditional Support and Love"....I know that it's quite easy to talk about it, but extremely rare to experience and hard to deliver. Only, and only those mentioned above can practice it in real life. Those are the people who will always love you, encourage you, guide you, and correct you for your betterment, towards a better life. 

Somebody said.......```There are somethings that money can't buy```... and ...```There are some people who can never be replaced in life!!``` These words are true to the core!!

If these "few people" are "blessings" in your life, then you would also come across "many", who would turn out to be the "blight" in your life. 

Blight, that has to be combated and cured without giving a second thought...just like a mistake that needs to be corrected at the earliest as to protect our happiness from going into ruins. Mistakes are made only to learn from; to teach us the difference between right and wrong, to tell us who deserves to be cherished and who must be thrown out of our lives.

That's why broken trusts and betrayed friendships must be scraped away from our lives as they would always pull you back in their drama. Those pretended friends perch on you just to satisfy their selfish needs. They would never miss an opportunity to display their hidden talent of drilling holes under your boat. 

So better is to burn some bridges than to allow those peace-suckers to crawl into your life as masked well-wishers.

~~~ "When you deal with the genuine, you don't deal with the fakes anymore."~~~  

                                                                             I like this quote by Nima Davani a lot....

I know it would hurt a little, or may be a lot in the beginning, but in the later phase of life, you are definitely going to feel proud of your decision...~~the life-changing decision!!

I can vouch for that, because I am one of those who at some or the other point of life, have met such two-faced losers who call themselves your best buds for don't know what reasons, and then, they make sure to show their true colors behind your back by bitching about you with random people. All they want is to mold you their way, talk the way they want, think as they do. If you don't, they go crazy inside.

...."Nobody wants to know how you feel, yet, they want you to do what they feel."....   

                                                        - Reality quoted by Mr. Michael Bassey Johnson

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So what I did to bring peace back in my life was the best thing that I could do at that point of time. Yes, earlier it was difficult but once I decided to do it, I just went ahead and did it!! I threw them out of my life. Not like kicking them off in air  ...I started maintaining a decent level of distance from them and slowly my life came back on track!! Now I'm happy and I think they are too....Blah!! Who cares anyway..!! 

~~~~~~Knowing the fact, I could not get happier....when someone I had known for a long-time became someone I knew.~~~~~~

My life turned prettier after they left along with their not so-cool drama!! I started finding my happiness in life's simple pleasures. I've stopped following the path of dependence in search of joy, my happiness now belongs only to me and my angels- my family and my true friends!! Not to everybody around me....

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When the "Bully" is not around..!!

Do you know which day of the week is the most delightful? Sunday..because that's a holiday.

Or the day, when the "Bully" is not around...wow!! 

Such news that he is not going to come for next couple of days is like the sweetest music that my ears could ever hear. What a joy this news brings! News fully soaked in perfect blend of unimaginable exhilaration and fulfillment...Yaaaayy....Sheer bliss!! 

Workplace, usually a busy-place, becomes fun-place in those days. Work-pressure, that crushes our minds in peak hours, seems to have become lighter than a feather. Those low-speed "sarkaari" ceiling fans that are never able to cool us suddenly start soothing our blazed away spirits. That hard chair (more of an antique piece) starts comforting my tired being much like a couch. The extended lunch chit-chats and giggles bring in much needed peace of mind. 

The persistent respite blows the day away in the blink of an eye. I can't put that hale feeling into words. It's never a burdensome day, it never gets that clumsy, when the "Bully" is not around!

Talking about the routine, those unnecessary battles of ideas that we go through everyday are enough to suck out all the energy from a person. But the "Bully" is never tired of them, because his imaginary supreme intelligence says that he's always right!!

Such a golden time arrives only once in a blue moon, when you don't have to worry about anything; be it the unnecessarily created hype towards work, or the meaningless demands for related explanations. You don't have to bother about a bully often spewing venom against co-workers, or termites who gnaw away all your inner peace. That short span of freedom from the master of menace who openly belittles his sub-ordinates every now and then...is priceless!! 

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Long awaited "blissful times"...

When the "Bully" is not around!

Joyful days...

Leisure...Relieved ears...Relaxed mind...Ease at work...

Simply wonderful!!

That's why they say..."Good things come to those who wait (faithfully  ..)"